¶1Convicted after a bench trial in the Lowell District Court of two counts of violating a G. L. c. 209A protective order,
¶21. Background. Shirley and the defendant lived together for over twenty years. In November of 1997, Shirley obtained a G. L. c. 209A abuse prevention order in the District Court, which included orders that the defendant not “abuse” or “contact” Shirley. The defendant subsequently was confined at the Bridgewater State Hospital, and remained there during the time when the calls at issue were made from February through June, 1998.
¶32. The telephone calls. With misplaced reliance on Commonwealth v. Gordon, 407 Mass. 340 (1990), and Com*686monwealth v. Collier, All Mass. 385 (1998),
¶4Since 1990,
¶5“Our cases generally interpret ‘contact’ broadly.” Commonwealth v. Basile, 47 Mass. App. Ct. 918, 919 (1999), and cases cited. Contact by telephone falls “within the prohibited circle.” Commonwealth v. Butler, 40 Mass. App. Ct. 906, 907 (1996). See Commonwealth v. Russell, 46 Mass. App. Ct. at 309-310 (evidence of unaccepted collect calls from the incarcerated defendant to his wife together with a call to his wife from a third person enlisted by defendant sufficient to establish violation of “no contact” order). Because a determination of past abuse is a prerequisite to obtaining a protective “no contact” order, and the purpose of such an order is the prevention of the manifest reactive harm created by contact from an abuser, Commonwealth v. Thompson, 45 Mass. App. Ct. 523, 525 (1998), *688we hold that violation of an order not to contact by telephone is established by proof of unexcused conversation with a protected party over the telephone and without proof that the protected party was placed in fear.
¶63. Motion for required finding of not guilty. Claiming the evidence was insufficient to show he had actual or constructive knowledge of the terms of the c. 209A order, the defendant argues his motion for a required finding of not guilty should have been allowed. The defendant was recorded as being in attendance in the District Court when the order was obtained on November 7, 1997, but was not present on the three occasions it later was extended.
¶7Even if we assume a failure of service, the evidence was sufficient to show the defendant had actual knowledge of the order’s terms. Shirley testified she told the defendant “a few times” that he was not supposed to call, and he responded that he “didn’t believe” in restraining orders and said “to hell with them.” See Commonwealth v. Silva, 431 Mass. 194, 199 (2000). Her daughter essentially corroborated this testimony. Viewed under the standard of Commonwealth v. Latimore, 378 Mass. 671, 676-677 (1979), the evidence was sufficient to show the defendant had the requisite knowledge of the order and its terms.
¶8The defendant also argues there was insufficient evidence to support the second offense, the telephone call on June 14, 1998. *689He ignores a telephone record, admitted in evidence at trial, which shows that a collect call was made on that date from Bridgewater, where the defendant then was incarcerated. Shirley testified generally, moreover, that the defendant had made telephone calls during the month of June, and that he called “[a]bout every day.”
¶94. Jury waiver. The defendant argues that a colloquy that was conducted by the judge after the start of the trial
¶10The court utilized an interpreter during the colloquy although the defendant initially appeared to understand the judge and responded to his questions in English. Sixty-two years old at trial, he claimed he had lived in the United States for forty years, but had not gone to school. While the judge seems otherwise to have followed in substance a model colloquy cited with approval in our decisions,
¶11The colloquy here appears as adequate as that in Commonwealth v. Hernandez, 42 Mass. App. Ct. 780, 783-784 (1997), where the judge did not state the constitutional right to a jury trial, and omitted describing the jury as members of the community, or that they must be unanimous in their verdict. There, it was held the judge might rely on the information contained in the jury waiver form and defense counsel’s certificate. Id. at 785. A similar form filed with the court in this case contains the information which the judge in Hernandezand in the present case did not state explicitly. See id. at 782-783. In the circumstances, defense counsel’s certification and the colloquy indicate the defendant had the requisite “comprehension of the nature of the choice” between a bench and jury trial. Commonwealth v. Schofield, 391 Mass. 772, 776 (1984), quoting from Ciummei v. Commonwealth, 378 Mass. 504, 510 (1979). The Schofieldcourt, supra at 775, also stated that “[w]e did not intend to establish a rule that ... the defendant [must be] aware of all the differences between bench and jury trials mentioned in Ciummei.”
¶12The defendant does not claim that he was uninformed or misinformed by defense counsel, or that he was pressured or under any disability at the time of the colloquy. See Commonwealth v. Onouha, 46 Mass. App. Ct. 904, 905 (1998).
¶13Judgments affirmed.
¶14In pertinent part, G. L. c. 209A, § 3, provides: “A person suffering from abuse from an adult or minor family or household member may file a complaint in the court requesting protection from such abuse, including, but not limited to, the following orders:
¶15“(a) ordering the defendant to refrain from abusing the plaintiff, whether the defendant is an adult or minor;
¶16*685“(b) ordering the defendant to refrain from contacting the plaintiff, unless authorized by the court, whether the defendant is an adult or minor.”
¶17The reason for this confinement does not appear in the record.
¶18The telephone was listed in the defendant’s name, and Shirley paid the telephone bills at his direction and with money from his bank account.
¶19Although the complaints against the defendant charged failure to comply with several orders, including “no abuse” and “no contact” directives, the prosecutor told the judge that the “Commonwealth is not alleging that the defendant violated the no abuse provisions. What we’re alleging is that he violated the provision which orders him not [to] contact the plaintiff.”
¶20These cases have no application in the present case. Commonwealth v. Gordon, 407 Mass. 340 (1990), interprets G. L. c. 209A, §§ 3 and 7, before those sections were amended by St. 1990, c. 403, §§ 3 and 8. The defendant in that case was ordered to refrain from abusing the plaintiff and to vacate and remain away from the marital home. The court concluded the evidence was sufficient to withstand the defendant’s motion for a required finding of not guilty for violation of the order to vacate, id. at 348, and that, from the evidence of his acts when he appeared at the marital home, the jury could conclude that the plaintiff “entertained a reasonable apprehension” of physical abuse (as defined in § 1). Id. at 350. In Commonwealth v. Collier, 427 Mass. 385 (1998), the defendant was convicted of violating a protective order by coming within one hundred yards of the plaintiff and of placing her in fear of imminent serious physical harm. Id.at 386 & n.l. A car driven by his son, in which he was a passenger, came within three feet of the plaintiff, and the case turned on whether the jury properly were instructed that the defendant intended an act which resulted in a violation of the order. Id. at 389-390.
¶21“Abuse” is defined in c. 209A, § 1, as “the occurrence of one or more of the following acts between family or household members:
¶22“(a) attempting to cause or causing physical harm;
¶23“(b) placing another in fear of imminent serious physical harm;
¶24“(c) causing another to engage involuntarily in sexual relations by force, threat or duress.”
¶25The issuance of a c. 209A order is a civil procedure, and abuse need only be proved by a preponderance of the evidence. See Jordan v. Clerk of the Westfield Div. of the Dist. Ct. Dept., 425 Mass. 1016, 1017 (1997).
¶26Statutes 1990, c. 403, § 3, amended c. 209A, § 3, to add “refrain from contacting” and “remain away” provisions.
¶27We recognize, as was indicated in Commonwealth v. Silva, 431 Mass. 194, 197 (2000), that no contact provisions may raise practical difficulties where it may be necessary for a defendant to have incidental conversation with a protected party in order to have permitted contacts with others. The defendant has made no argument in this appeal that his conversations with Shirley were incidental to his exercise of any rights. In any event, whatever the defendant’s rights may have been to obtain information about his family or to speak to his grandchildren, his threats and verbal abuse transformed any incidental contact into a “substantive violation” of the terms of the order. Id. at 198-199. In the circumstances of an outstanding “no contact” order, a defendant properly must bear the consequences of proven unnecessary and nonincidental contact.
¶28The defendant does not argue that Shirley’s acceptance of his calls excused his violation of the “no contact” order.
¶29The defendant does not claim he was unaware of the extensions.
¶30The return of service section of the order shows that the defendant was served a faxed copy by an officer at “Cambridge Jail” on November 8, 1997. At trial, the Lowell police detective who arrested the defendant testified that, in applying for a complaint, he verified the order through the local police dispatcher, and had examined the return of service certification, but had no independent knowledge that the order had been served on the defendant. There was testimony from the defendant that could be viewed as supporting his contention at argument on the motion for a required finding of not guilty that on November 8, 1997, he was not in Cambridge, but in Bridgewater. That testimony does not compel a required finding of not guilty.
¶31During Shirley’s direct testimony, the judge apparently discovered that no colloquy on jury waiver had been conducted with the defendant. After a recess of unspecified length, the judge asked defense counsel whether he had talked to the defendant, and counsel responded he had gone through the “paper work with him for maybe the fourth time with the aid of the interpreter,” and stated the defendant had executed a waiver form. The judge then conducted the colloquy.
¶32The statement in Commonwealth v. Pavao, 423 Mass. 798, 803 (1996), that “[a] postconviction colloquy would be ineffective to remedy the omission of the colloquy at the time of waiver,” is inapplicable in this case. Analogously, in Commonwealth v. Collado, 426 Mass. 675, 678 (1998), the acceptance of a waiver after jury empanelment was a procedural violation which did not require reversal. In any event, the defendant did not raise this issue below, and defense counsel participated in the waiver procedure and the colloquy.
¶33See Commonwealth v. Towers, 35 Mass. App. Ct. 557, 560 n.4 (1993); Commonwealth v. Onouha, 46 Mass. App. Ct. 904, 905 (1998).
¶34There is no merit in the defendant’s further assertion that his waiver was invalid because it was not executed at the same time as the colloquy. The record does not clearly show when the form, dated the same date as the trial, was executed, but it appears to have been signed before the colloquy. The procedure for submission of the form described in Commonwealth v. Hernandez, 42 Mass. App. Ct. at 781-782, does not specify when the form is to be executed. In any event, a colloquy is to be conducted “ ‘contemporaneously with and before accepting any waiver’ of the right to trial by jury” (emphasis added). Commonwealth v. Hardy, 427 Mass. 379, 381 (1998), quoting from Commonwealth v. Abreu, 391 Mass. 777, 778 (1984).
¶35Aside from his occasional use of English in responding to the judge’s questions, the defendant’s testimony that “[i]n my country there are no restraining orders like this. I’ve never seen anything like this,” hardly is indicative of a lack of understanding of the legal process he faced.