N.J. Stat. Ann. § 3B:13A-19

In making expenditures under N.J.S. 3B:13A-18, a conservator shall consider recommendations relating to the appropriate standard of support, education and benefit for the conservatee made by any party set forth in N.J.S. 3B:13A-6. He may not be surcharged for sums paid to persons or organizations actually furnishing support, education or care to the conservatee pursuant to the recommendations of a parent, spouse or heir of the conservatee unless he knows that the parent, spouse or heir of the conservatee is deriving personal financial benefit therefrom, or unless the recommendations are clearly not in the best interests of the conservatee.