N.J. Stat. Ann. § 40A:9-78.9

2. As used in this act, P.L.2017, c.289 (C.40A:9-78.8 et seq.), "Gold Star Family Member" means a parent, legal guardian or other legal custodian, related by blood or by law to, or a spouse, domestic partner, or partner in civil union of, a member of the Armed Forces of the United States who died while on active duty for the United States, or a child to whom the member was a parent, legal guardian or other legal custodian, whether related by blood or by law.