¶1The plaintiff instituted a suit for a divorce against the defendant in the circuit court of Jefferson county. The answer contained a cross bill in which the defendant prayed for the causes therein stated, to be divorced from the plaintiff. The cross bill charged that the plaintiff had been guilty of adultery with one Harry Woodworth; that, for some time prior to the final separation, to wit, April 17, 1895, she had refused him the privileges of a husband; that she had taught their children to hate him; that she had threatened to poison him; that in 1894 she cut him with a knife; that in 1895 she denounced him (in the presence of others) as “a dog,” “dirty scoundrel,” and “brute,” and that, from February 3, 1893, to the final separation she sought the society of other men and absented herself from home of evenings, and remained away until late hours at night. When the cross bill was filed the plaintiff dismissed her petition and instituted a like action in the circuit court of the *340city of St. Louis, which action is still pending. The plaintiff filed an answer to the cross bill, in which she denied all charges of bad conduct on her part. The cause reached the circuit court of Butler county on change of venue, where it was tried on the cross bill and answer. There was a decree in favor of the defendant and the plaintiff has appealed.
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¶3The charges that the plaintiff threatened to poison the defendant and that she denied to him the rights of a husband, we must hold to be unproved. The defendant testified in support of them, and the plaintiff denied them. This was the extent of the proof. The granting of divorces is against the interest of the state and of society, and the courts should see to it that the complainant sustains the charges by a clear preponderance of evidence.
¶4The charge that the plaintiff taught her children to hate their father is likewise unproved. The plaintiff denied it, and two of the daughters, aged respectively thirteen and fifteen years, testified that it was not true. It was supported by the testimony of defendankonly, and what he stated were not facts, but matters of conjecture merely.
¶5In 1894 the plaintiff and defendant had a difficulty in which, according to his testimony, the plaintiff *341tried to cut his throat with a knife, and in warding off her blows he was severely cut on the hand. The plaintiff testified that while they were' at breakfast the defendant commenced to abuse her about a trivial matter ; that to avoid his abuse she went into the kitchen for the purpose of finishing her breakfast; that he followed her into the kitchen and there renewed the quarrel and commenced to strike at her; that to protect herself from his blows, she used the knife with which she was eating as a guard, and that in this way his hand was cut, and that he thereupon knocked the plaintiff down. In this version the plaintiff is corroborated by the testimony of one of the daughters, who was the only other eyewitness of the difficulty. It is plain that this charge can not be sustained.
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¶7In 'the summer of 1894, the plaintiff and defendant had a controversy about the refusal of the defendant to give plaintiff money to buy a railroad ticket. The parties differ, of course, as to what took place. The only disinterested witness said that when he stepped into the store the defendant was standing behind the counter at the money drawer; that the plaintiff was present, and that when he entered the store the defendant said “my wife has been trying to rob me several times and wants money now,” and that thereupon the plaintiff called her husband “a mean dutchman,” “a brute,” etc. According to this witness the conduct of plaintiff was reprehensible and unladylike, but who will say that she talked without provocation. Her husband had denounced her as a thief to one of their neighbors.
¶8The record presents other matters of difference between the parties, but a discussion of them would result in no advantage to the defendaht. We have read the evidence carefully and have arrived at the conclusion that both spouses are responsible for their domestic broils. A little forbearance on the part of the wife and some effort on the part of the husband to make *343his home life pleasant, would, in all probability, have prevented many of their differences. We are, therefore, of the opinion that the decree of divorce and the order for the custody of the children ought to be set aside and the defendant’s cross bill dismissed.
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